I was on the phone talking with my son on his birthday a little while ago. The conversation turned to eating out on Valentine’s Day. Neither of us had wanted to take our wives to an overly crowded restaurant and decided to stay home or go for fast food. I joked that I’d taken Lucy to Arby’s, a really nice place, one that had free refills on soda.
I should
explain the joke. Lucy and I’d watched a
television interview where a young woman from the inner city was asked about
the kind of man she considered attractive when it came to dating. She thought
one of the ways to determine a quality date was being taken to a really good
restaurant, one where they didn’t charge for refills. Let that sink in for a moment.
William
acknowledged that Arby’s made a pretty good Ruben Sandwich; but next time we
were in town we should go to Victor’s Sandwich Shop for their Ruben’s. I’d have to agree, Victor’s Ruben’s was
better. But that’s not what I wanted to
write about today.
Several
years ago…why is it most of my stories start off with, several years ago? Anyway, back when we were still living in Olde
Oaks we had a family living close by and we would visit with them once a month
as part of what used to be called Home Teaching, an older version of Ministering.
Terrell
Hunt was an environmental lawyer as was his wife Karen. They met and hit it off despite social
norms. It was a mixed marriage; Terrell
was White and Karen was Black. Their
politics tended to lean left, which made it interesting since Lucy and I were
more conservative politically. It didn’t
matter all that much since all of us had a firm testimony of the gospel of
Jesus Christ and we treated each other as brothers and sisters. Any time we’d be shopping and see her mother,
I’d openly greet her, “Hey, Mom!” There
was a special acceptance that permitted such a lighthearted meeting in public.
After a
couple of years of enjoying a mutual friendship, Karen had become more
comfortable when we’d come by to visit.
On one such visit Karen explained that she’d been to Victor’s Sandwich
Shop, and you were wondering how Victor’s would figure into this; anyway, that
afternoon she went to pick up lunch. There was an informal retirement party going
on for a police officer with all his friends at Victor’s Sandwich Shop.
Karen
waded into their merriment and started off with, “You must know my father, T F
Stern. He’s a retired cop too.” Mind
you, Karen is an attractive middle age Black woman and I’m a little past middle
age White guy. Some, if not all the
police officers who were enjoying the moment probably knew me as those words
rumble around in their heads.
One of
them responded with something like, “It must be a different Stern from the one
we know”. The smile on his face must
have been too much fun for Karen.
“T F Stern
retired a few years ago, you know, he’s also a locksmith, worked night shift
for HPD”. She didn’t wait even half a
moment as she added, “He met mom when he busted her for prostitution and, well,
they hit it off and here I am.”
I’d have
paid good money to have been a fly on the wall that day. Karen’s face was all aglow as she related the
encounter that evening. I’m sure there
are police officers wondering to this day how much of that yarn was true.
The glue
that holds friends together is, in part, a warped sense of humor and the
ability to bond despite social norms or expectations.
My friend
Terrell suffered a major stroke a few years later and died. This was about the time we moved to our
property in Buffalo, Texas. We’ve since
lost track of Karen but wanted her to know, she always has a place in her old
dad’s heart.
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